One of the greatest gifts you can give your child in squash is helping them focus on how they play, not just whether they win.
- WHY PERFORMANCE GOALS MATTER…
- They’re in your child’s control. Things like improved footwork, consistent serves, or better court movement can be practiced and developed.
- They encourage steady progress. Small wins build confidence and motivation.
- They reduce pressure. Unlike outcome goals, performance goals aren’t dependent on factors outside your child’s control (like opponents, court conditions, or equipment).
- Work with your child, and their coach, to set specific, realistic, and challenging performance goals. This turns squash into a rewarding learning experience instead of a win-or-lose situation.
2. AFTER A MATCH, TRY ASKING…
Instead of “Did you win?” ask questions that highlight growth:
- Were you getting your serves in today?
- Did you feel confident at the front of the court?
- Were you able to keep your focus most of the match?
- Did you hit your targets in the back corners?
- Were you able to volley more today?
- Did you focus on getting back to the T?
These questions show you care about your child’s development, not just the scoreline.
3. HANDLING WINS AND LOSSES
The old saying holds true: we often learn more from a loss than a win, if we have the right mindset.
- After a loss: It’s natural for kids to feel upset. Console them, but give space for their emotions. Once they’re ready, help them reflect constructively – not by blaming, but by learning.
- Turn setbacks into growth: Losses can become powerful motivators, teaching resilience, perspective, and maturity.
- Keep balance in mind: Only one player wins a tournament, but every competitor has the opportunity to improve and enjoy the journey.
Handled well, a tough loss can become one of the most valuable – and transformative -experiences in your child’s squash journey. Again, Focus on Performance, Not Just Winning!!
